What a great reminder this Huffington Post article is about letting our kids decide for themselves how long or short their hair should be.
I’m guilty as charged. I admit I have my own agenda about what my kids’ hair “should” look like. I love articles like these that help me do a mental switcheroo and make me realize that I knew all along that control is not the answer. It’s respect.
And that there are other more important battles to be fought! I will say I DO require them to at least brush their hair before they leave the house in the morning, believing that we should all make an attempt to try and look our best when we are out and about in the world.
Yes, my kids are in charge of their own hair– and, it is only HAIR, for crying out loud! The main thing is that I have happy kids! No more “shoulds” — which are ever present in our society about boys and girls conforming to a certain set of ideals. (And that’s another topic for another day…)
Loved these quotes:
“I realized that I was projecting my own self doubt and insecurities onto my strong sassy daughter. If she wants her hair cut, who am I to stop it from happening? Yes, kids might tease her… you know it happens. But the only thing worse than that is teaching her that she should make choices in life solely based on how other people (not even people she cares about) might perceive them.” Jackie Morgan McDougall, article author
“This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. Willow [her 12 y.o. daughter] cuts her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. Even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires.” Jada Pinkett Smith, actress, in an interview with People Magazine
And I especially appreciated the compromise the parents made with their little girl: that she wait a few more months so her hair was long enough to donate to Wigs for Kids! What a great win-win situation for everyone!
Thanks, Parentmap, for sharing this article.